Reasons You Didn't Get Justice

We love documentaries in our house, and  on a rare night home, after much debate, settled in to watch Capturing the Friedmans. The film left me sick to my stomach on many levels. First, the subject matter: a father and son brought up on multiple counts of child sex abuse. Second, the evident tampering with witnesses by the police and the alleged victims’ parents. Third, the failure of the justice system to deliver any semblance of fairness to this father and son.

Now, do I think Arnold Friedman was guilty of pedophilia? Yes. He told people he had been aroused by minors and also had a complicated childhood sexual history. He had child pornography in his home. Once this detail was leaked, the community around him gave a collective gasp. Was he guilty of the incredible amounts of violence he was accused of against 14 children? That answer seems much more difficult to suss out – at least the film would like us to think so.

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Photo by Vinoth Chandar

In either case, his life is an example of what happens when public opinion turns  into hysteria. The truth is so murky, what actually happened in those computer classes, doesn’t matter. When you listen to the accounts of police leading children into testifying, badgering witnesses by many accounts, therapy that included hypnosis, which can plant false memories, the idea of parents who don’t want to be left out of the crisis, makes you squirm.

Yesterday was Palm Sunday, the day that the church calendar commemorates Jesus’ triumphant entry  into Jerusalem. He comes in to cries of joy, to the cries of people who thought he was going to liberate them from Roman rule. When he doesn’t, when he starts saying things like “My kingdom is not of this world”, rather than “Let’s arm the resistance,” people were less joyful. The week ends with the same people who had greeted him, turning into an angry mob, jeering as Jesus is broken,  hanging between other criminals, on a cross.

This Lent I have been reflecting on injustice and speaking out whenever I see the signs to call attention to various issues like Islamophobia and sexism. What I’ve come to realize is that injustice is rampant. Her elusive opposite, justice, or her cousin, mercy, unwarranted favor, is the rarest of humanity’s flowers.

“I have no faith in the system,” my husband said, after the film ended.

“You shouldn’t,” I replied.

From Ferguson, Missouri, to Delhi, India, the threats against our individual freedoms are clear.  Calls for reason, logic, and justice are important, not only because others deserve them, we may need them one day ourselves.  We are our own insurance against the mob.

 

How Turbulence Can Inspire Your Perspective

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Slight turbulences by by Karoly Lorentey.

I was flying home a few nights ago when the plane shuddered. We were sailing through the darkest of skies in the middle of the night, 30,000 feet up, somewhere above the Atlantic ocean and the ding! that announces the fasten seat belt sign came on. For the next several minutes we shook our way through turbulent air. This was a grip the armrest, teeth jarring pocket of winds.

In that moment I thought what if this is it? What if this is all the warning you get? The plane continued to shake its way through the dark sky, thankfully into more stable parts of the jet stream. And I was left nurturing that nugget of insight: most of our days are spent on insignificant tasks which seem overwhelming enough to supersede our true values.

When our time comes, will we have spent it in the ways that really matter? I’m going to try to remember the terror of those few moments for a long time to come.

Essential Steps to Selling Books

I had an a blast in Kuwait last week with PLUMA, a writers group focused on exploring the migrant experience in the Arabian Gulf. I read a scene from The Dohmestics that was quite hard going: an almost rape scene in which those at the bottom of the pyramid compete against themselves. I’ve read from this scene before. The last time I did, the audience was stunned by sorrow into silence. This time, the group was nodding all throughout. Yes, men from the same country while abroad will take advantage of their compatriots.

Yes, women can work against her other. Or stand together in solidarity. I was comforted by the ability to talk about these harsh realities instead of shying away from them.

In the Q & A the inevitable question came: “What advice do you have for beginning writers?”

“Write.”

In all seriousness, if you haven’t written anything, don’t ask me how to get an agent or sell your books. You haven’t got one yet. If readers fall in love with your work (which is a miracle every time it happens) then they’ll want your next project. ASAP. You’ll need to keep writing.

People also ask me: “When do you write?”

“Whenever I can. Wherever I can. In the 30 minutes before a conference, skipping breakfast. Poolside during swim class. On Saturdays.”

Posted from Abu Dhabi’s Al Reem lounge.